Sometimes it feels unmanly to love such a feeling of childishness. But at the same time… what really defines a man? Now, I know what you’re thinking: “Oh boy he’s going to start talking sex vs gender and whatever”. No. I don’t care enough about that.
When I dream of transforming into the perfect man (rich and married with two children), I fail to realize that in order to become him, I need to dream of attributes rather than achievements.
To be happily married (with two children) means more than just a ring. It requires that I be a kind and loving as a husband. Same applies for my dreams of childbearing (I don’t dream of pregnancy I should’ve worded that differently), to be a happy father means to be a nurturing and caring one.
Manhood can be defined in alternative ways, one’s that don’t relate to any particular appendages. As masculinity is not about brute physique and acting “like an alpha”, but more about the character we choose to be. The man of my dreams (who I dream of becoming), is a resilient, and loving person. But it’s not always the same for every man.
For too long we’ve let appearance depict our perceptions of who we want to be. I really would like to become the perfect man, rather than simply looking like him. Preferring to act in his character, instead of simply mimicking in ways I believe he’d behave.
Beautiful blog, just like your other blogs, you transform such a simple topic and transform it into something that can be discussed in a beautiful way, especially how you made it relate to your dreams as a father.
ReplyDeleteWoahh I never really though of it this way! Instead of romanticizing about the final results of being the perfect man or woman, it's about how you become that version. By becoming that perfect someone artificially, it doesn't really count!
ReplyDeleteI love your perspective on this, especially your last line. I think it's especially easy to find yourself wanting to be someone else and getting caught up with the superficial stuff. It's important to value your morals! Also, I'm addicted to CiCi Jelly drinks as well - they're so good.
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ReplyDeleteTORO!!! This was a really cool perspective on the "Perfect Man" (also a song by Shinhwa :D), and I especially appreciated the line "The man of my dreams (who I dream of becoming), is a resilient, and loving person. But it’s not always the same for every man." It allows for the perspective of a combined identity to show, as well as welcome individualism. Dreams are individualistic, and acting in character rather than superficial looks is a very strong point. W blog
If you couldn't tell by the k-pop reference,
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Making “the perfect man” a character was super cool! The pronoun usage and repetition of your definition were super unique and fun to read. Also, I still drink Gogo squeeze alll the time.
ReplyDeleteI really really like how you incorporate so much of your own personal language into your blog posts. To me, it’s a perfect mix of humor and the severity of your chosen topic. Loved it reading it (as always..) and looking forward to the next one :)).
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